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Wine in the face of adversity

on September 24, 2012

So I think I’ve already covered how much I can dwell on things that people say to me? If not, there you are, I do, very much so. Sometimes it can be one word, a sentence or an entire conversation…in other words, be VERY careful with what you to say to others. They can alter somebody’s entire perception of life as they know it. Or at least, it does for me…

Everybody, as I understand it, develops their own ‘facebook image’ over time. I have been aware of this for quite awhile as there are many opinions I’ve formed of my ‘friends’ purely from their status updates/page likes/check-ins/about sections. Silly, right? I think we’ve reached a dangerous age, where people assume they don’t have to go out to get to know anyone anymore… Which works great for us single mothers, hey?



A friend I haven’t seen or really spoken to for about 11 years popped up in my messages/chat yesterday. They said they “paid attention to my status updates” and that I seemed “strong, enthusiastic, capable and a role model to others…”. (Holy crap, what?!) And then the statement that has sat strangely with me until right now: “Triumph in the face of adversity…”.


Now, I can’t really be expected to look too much into that right? People say nice things every day without actually meaning them. But this is me we’re talking about, awkward, over-analytical, internalising me.


I’m flattered, really, but do people actually consider ME a role model? Do I really seem like I’m coping better than the rest of the planet? What adversity? I could ask so many presumptuous questions…
Maybe this is my humility speaking, but really, if I am your role model…maybe you should re-evaluate your perceptions…just a tad.


Triumph. That word forms an image in my mind of a medieval warlord who has just claimed his land back for his people, after many slayings of evil people and dragons…yeah dragons. I haven’t done that.
Adversity. Conjures images of parents who have lost their children to that very warlord, or someone with Ebola… That is no way near what my life has been like.


Things are going wrong? Time to open up that bottle and write about it…if I get any time in the next month… – That is me.


I look up to people, and come to think of it, they’re usually people I don’t see very often if at all. I’ve built them up in my mind as superhuman and most of the time I go out of my way to NOT spend much time with them…so I don’t taint that ideal my brain assumes. In fact, this very person who sparked this crazed train of thought would definitely be in my ‘Top 10 people who have role model qualities’ (So, avoid at all costs…).
But looking up to me? Ha, you’re funny, you funny person you.


What do you think? Do you have people who look up to you? Have you changed what you do or write about because of that? Do you feel better or worse for being someone’s role model?


I think we should be careful of who we look up to, be careful of taking every status update as God’s honest truth. People are flawed, nobody is perfect. The only way to really know somebody is to spend time with them, actual face to face time…and even then…

Wait, what?!


Facebook is full of lies after all.


One response to “Wine in the face of adversity

  1. jessmittens says:

    Hi! I just tagged you in this ’11 facts’ wordpress game, you’re welcome to not continue the tagging game if you don’t want to, or if it doesn’t fit your blog. Otherwise, here’s the link:
    http://mittenskittens.wordpress.com/2012/09/24/tag-youre-a-mitt/ 🙂

    I feel really lame now I’ve done this tagging business. I think I need wine, not as sweet as wine in the face of adversity, wine in the face of embarrassment is more bitter.

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